tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post6937811181042611256..comments2024-03-29T12:44:53.928+05:30Comments on gappa: What-a-woman......Ugich Konitarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15901335427613806798noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-39598636858235271162011-10-09T08:52:25.340+05:302011-10-09T08:52:25.340+05:30HHG I know some folks who wouldnt recognize a symp...<b>HHG</b> I know some folks who wouldnt recognize a symptom even if was magnified for them, but instead of bringing comfort to someone, it gives them a kick to make such comments. Sick people. <br /><br /><b>Mukta Dutt </b> Thank you and welcome to the blog !Ugich Konitarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15901335427613806798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-77844267008666003792011-10-03T16:08:07.072+05:302011-10-03T16:08:07.072+05:30Really a wonderful example of male dominating soci...Really a wonderful example of male dominating society and the upliftment of a that Woman. Appreciateble efforts :)Mukta Dutthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01038446357536610532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-57143669057690876992011-10-02T20:54:04.057+05:302011-10-02T20:54:04.057+05:30I've been there and seen it except that the pe...I've been there and seen it except that the person who said it was a female herself. <br />The occasion was my first delivery and I was very sick. I felt hot in the head and ears generally drowsy and weak. I did not realize that my BP was soaring till I lost sight. Bp was normal when i went for the previous check up and the baby wasn't due till two weeks from then. My mother and uncle were worried if I would ever get back my sight and a neighbor said <br /><br />"what a girl... how stupid could you be not to recognize the symptoms."Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-89166232913784622472011-09-30T21:09:05.903+05:302011-09-30T21:09:05.903+05:30Anyway, getting back to Male Chauvinist Pigs: I h...Anyway, getting back to Male Chauvinist Pigs: I have not seen any evidence of it in Hawaii, Los Angeles, San Francisco, or New York City, where I have lived. In my own family, hubby and I are equal...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-33179606120839817472011-09-30T21:01:08.466+05:302011-09-30T21:01:08.466+05:30Thanks for all of the comments, which I find inter...Thanks for all of the comments, which I find interesting.<br /><br />I think American women have come a long way -- certainly, we are better off than women in Saudi Arabia, where they are not permitted to drive! Good grief!<br /><br />Yes, the term, Male Chauvinist Pigs, was probably coined in the US during the feminist movement back in the 1970s. That is when I first heard it. <br /><br />I think the day a woman is elected president of the USA will be a great day. Hillary Clinton came close, but failed to be nominated. Maybe, next election?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-41450341605997642742011-09-30T17:14:00.191+05:302011-09-30T17:14:00.191+05:30gigihawaii A slight correction. I meant to say tha...<b>gigihawaii</b> A slight correction. I meant to say that we women in India didnt have to fight for a right to vote. Women in the US did.Ugich Konitarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15901335427613806798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-64667974330174844692011-09-30T10:46:43.542+05:302011-09-30T10:46:43.542+05:30Sandhya So true. We see it happening again and ag...<b> Sandhya </b> So true. We see it happening again and again and again ...<br /><br /><b>Makk </b> yes its the same lady. and yes, her problem is solved. Some folks who read the post (and have read about her before) even helped her with costs financially....<br /><br /><b>Kavita </b> I wish somebody had an answer to "Kya Aurat hai !". Lets hope things change...<br /><br /><b>gigihawaii </b> I think all countries have their share of MCP's. In fact I heard these words first when I went grad school in UCI, in Calif. in 1970-72. But then different countries develop differently over time. Like women in India got a right to vote, the day India got her independence in 1947. Much before America. I just hope that somewhere sometime people across the world change. And women and their work , are respected....<br /><br /><b>Neha </b> At the crux of it all is a mother's ability to tell off someone, son or daughter who is doing or behaving wrong. Many mothers fear the "burapan"....<br /><br /><b>Bikramjit </b> Glad to know that you were so much there with your sister all throughout the difficult time....<br /><br /><b>Ernestine </b> I have nothing but admiration for your life, as I read your blog, and realise your strength....thank you for the comment!<br /><br /><b>Kavi </b> Yes, tese vignettes remain firmly etched in your mind, and possibly guide you at some times....<br /><br /><b>Wanderer </b> Thats how it is :-(<br /><br /><b>Ashok </b> Thank you .<br /><br /><b>3deviyaan </b> Countries are really incidental to all this. You have all types everywhere. I have personal experience of at least 3 countries including mine. What needs to chnage is how mothers bring up sons vis-a-vis daughters...Ugich Konitarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15901335427613806798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-34246531144999416292011-09-29T21:59:53.536+05:302011-09-29T21:59:53.536+05:30Sad but true that even today women are treated as ...Sad but true that even today women are treated as sus-standard citizens and by the way some Lady from Hawaii as be rated Indians by generalizing them.This is not about INDIAN MEN ,it's about men in general , about a whole planet of men who for centuries have grown believing they in some way superior . Irony of life being that even to BE on this planet they need a woman's womb ! Ur maid is a gutsy lady and am so glad you wrote about her. By the what u described of your observation of the lady falling over some stray construction material is exactly what I witnessed albeit in ENGLAND not India and the reaction sequence was precisely the SAME !and NO the couple was NOT Indian.so there ! It's a global attitude change that's required !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-19316761348983406082011-09-29T10:00:10.817+05:302011-09-29T10:00:10.817+05:30nice blog...cheers!nice blog...cheers!ashokhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07151604896442505084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-56196097314147128642011-09-29T09:00:50.955+05:302011-09-29T09:00:50.955+05:30And who is responsible for bringing up a man with ...And who is responsible for bringing up a man with such low degrees of sensitivity and empathy? The parents, and sadly, the mother contributes to it the most. It's sad to see that most problems a women faces in her home is because of the callous attitude of another woman. A mother who fusses over her son and leaves out the daughter, a mom-in-law who cribs over insignificant things that her daughter-in-law does, the neighbourhood women who passes judgement on the working woman....sad to see that women are sometimes so insensitive to other woman's plight.Shamithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06932609728071544722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-3523725974877413112011-09-29T06:40:08.594+05:302011-09-29T06:40:08.594+05:30Many years back, my grandmother lit the pyre of he...Many years back, my grandmother lit the pyre of her mother ! <br /><br />The scene remains etched in my memory.. your post brought back several memories.Kavihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11426040093753611098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-42213385153073281582011-09-28T22:15:02.952+05:302011-09-28T22:15:02.952+05:30I love this post.
You are in India and the setting...I love this post.<br />You are in India and the setting is<br />different.<br />But this is One Woman who started out alone 32 years ago and did what<br />most of her family and maybe others<br />thought she could not do. Educated her children and made a life for herself. A different kind of life.<br />Closer to the end now. I am at peace and happy.<br />When I look back much I did not understand. Now it does not matter.<br />Life is good...One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12548226150115102345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-28008765941165682242011-09-28T15:22:50.927+05:302011-09-28T15:22:50.927+05:30very true what you say .. I dont find it wrong if ...very true what you say .. I dont find it wrong if the girl was there for the last rites of her father .. who else would od it .. stupid cousins .. <br /><br />When my father passed away my sister was with me on all the rites that were to be done .. she has equal right as me .. and if some people had a problem with that then I made sure they knew they can get lost ... <br /><br /><a href="http://mannbikram.wordpress.com" rel="nofollow">Bikram's</a>Bikramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17320753339263375295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-63936096165035379582011-09-28T14:37:18.373+05:302011-09-28T14:37:18.373+05:30It's the same state of affairs everywhere! And...It's the same state of affairs everywhere! And it's sad. It's strange that even after being educated and brought up well, men treat women like dirt! Wonder what will make them understand and realize that it's woman who brings him into the world and takes care of him as a mother, is with him through thick and thin as a wife, pampers and loves him as a sister!Nehahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09356457383586939084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-41764677654242558932011-09-28T14:17:59.217+05:302011-09-28T14:17:59.217+05:30About the men in your country: they are called Ma...About the men in your country: they are called Male Chauvinist Pigs in my country...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-16707939042394870242011-09-28T14:05:03.633+05:302011-09-28T14:05:03.633+05:30The mindset and the careless nurturing - true .
My...The mindset and the careless nurturing - true .<br />My sister-in-law (my husband's first cousin)performed all cremation rituals of her father.The family stood by her caring nothing about what others might think.A widow choosing to remarry, women working in night shifts,women who contribute majorly financially but are not able to help in the family kitchen are most often called 'kya aurat hai ' - our society is sadly still biased .Kavita Sahariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11342095914702911870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-47949305886779743902011-09-28T13:23:43.717+05:302011-09-28T13:23:43.717+05:30(She told me this story).
Is not it same lady, y...(She told me this story).<br /><br /><br />Is not it same lady, you wrote about who has stand up for her family and few days was struggling for caste certificate??<br /><br />She is done with that? or still struggling?Makkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14012915183456139011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-10193830533566458932011-09-28T12:24:20.457+05:302011-09-28T12:24:20.457+05:30How true, Ugich!
A friend has her own boutique, w...How true, Ugich!<br /><br />A friend has her own boutique, where she deals in beautiful bags, purses, material, knick-knacks etc. designed and made by herself. For this she needs to travel often to source items. She designs stuff and gets them made directly from artisans. She is also a full-time homemaker and mom of two. She does all the cooking in the house herself, as her family refuses to eat what a cook makes. She sits up late nights for her work, after her family is attended to and all have gone to bed. <br /><br />Just last week she had gone to Mumbai to get 6 big bags full of clay diyas and a lot of other stuff that she will be decorating and putting up for sale. Her bus came to the bus stand at 6.30 in the morning. Single handedly, she got all of it into a taxi with minimum possible breakage, and got it offloaded at home- simply because she her shop was too small to keep it there without some sorting. Her husband did not even think it necessary to go to pick her up or help her with the offloading.<br /><br />All he had to say when he left for his high-paying software job was- "I want all of this out of the house before I come back in the evening."!!sandhyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09654489216158421654noreply@blogger.com