tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post8027114804970836218..comments2024-03-28T14:43:18.928+05:30Comments on gappa: Its all relative .....Ugich Konitarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15901335427613806798noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-71733430024569927802012-06-20T21:58:56.216+05:302012-06-20T21:58:56.216+05:30This is so very interesting! Aha! So you use &qu...This is so very interesting! Aha! So you use "Aunty" instead of "Auntie" in India.Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07461569436322815787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-35068646261670495012011-08-25T13:21:10.035+05:302011-08-25T13:21:10.035+05:30A heart warming post. :) I have acquired a lot of ...A heart warming post. :) I have acquired a lot of names since I started blogging: Shail, Shail di, Shail Aunty, Shail ji, Shikari Shailji, Shail Edathi, Shail chechi... it goes on. Of course in real life I am also Shail Ammoomma, as my nephews and nieces are already parents themselves :)Shailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07174562168503272243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-84973595528397530812009-06-17T11:53:09.831+05:302009-06-17T11:53:09.831+05:30alankrita Thank you for your comments.
A.I. Dont...<b>alankrita</b> Thank you for your comments. <br /><br /><b>A.I.</b> Dont forget to take her to the Dosa places when you introduce her to Matunga Market :-)<br /><br /><b>Peter Rozovsky </b> Thank you, yes you may. Back here in India, some of us don't wait for the hallowed Oxford dictionary types to agree to add "native" words to their product. Its more fun like this :-)Ugich Konitarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15901335427613806798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-59113145430365001822009-06-16T14:33:38.061+05:302009-06-16T14:33:38.061+05:30May I tell you what a marvelous word "auntifi...May I tell you what a marvelous word "auntification" is?<br /> ==============<br /> Detectives Beyond Borders<br />"Because Murder Is More Fun Away From Home"<br /> <a href="http://www.detectivesbeyondborders.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">http://detectivesbeyondborders.blogspot.com/</a>Peter Rozovskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09977933481463759162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-10922685492731373932009-06-15T17:40:25.152+05:302009-06-15T17:40:25.152+05:30Ugich maushi, mee Virginia madhe rahte pan ami Hyd...Ugich maushi, mee Virginia madhe rahte pan ami Hyderabad che, although I was in Mumbai for a few years.shilpahttp://shilpadesh.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-56676661489046781942009-06-15T08:58:48.964+05:302009-06-15T08:58:48.964+05:30Don't know about that UK, I seem to take her t...Don't know about that UK, I seem to take her to air conditioned green grocers in Pune or those individual thela walas ...few and far between - literally. I guess Matunga Market is an institution which has to be experienced...like all the other old bhaji wala/wali haunts in Mumbai.<br /><br />Next time I go, I'll be sure to take an unhurried tour of the tokris alongwith her. :)A.I.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01157788595540667292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-34322270938488158112009-06-13T21:17:26.857+05:302009-06-13T21:17:26.857+05:30We have names like that in Hindi
Mausi, Bua, Chach...We have names like that in Hindi<br />Mausi, Bua, Chachi/ Taiji/ and so on and their male equivalents.<br /><br />I used to like the address by relationship deal, now I am happier being just called by my name.Dr. Ally Critterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04191162451745534259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-8330919063284554142009-06-13T09:20:34.449+05:302009-06-13T09:20:34.449+05:30Darlene Thank you. And should you ever visit Indi...<b>Darlene</b> Thank you. And should you ever visit India, you can rest assured, every person you meet in a middle class milieu , like, a market, a mall , just any shop, or even a three wheeler rickshaw person will address you as Aji. And like Braja said above, I dont like being called Aunty,, but Mavshi is great. However, since u are so much elder to me , you get to call me something like, hey you Ugich ! And yes, I can now see the cartoons on your blog.... wonderful !<br /><br /><b>Shilpa</b> Thank you. Ani mage waloon baghtana, apan Tai chya, baghta baghta, Aji kashya zalo tyachi maja watate...Just curious. Tu Mumbai madhe ahes , ka itaratra kuthe ?<br /><br /><b>Amber star </b> Thank you<br /><br /><b>Aleta</b> Thank you. Sometimes I feel, this kind of auntification etc, allows us to visualize ourselves , as we grow older, in different responsible roles; something that probably keeps some people nicely away from worrying about things like, not looking young, appearance of wrinkles, and losing in the compepetion with A. Jolie....:-)<br /><br /><b>Joy</b> I guess , who ever added Jai Ho to the dictionary, can now start thinking of adding Mavshi and kaku.... way nicer than Aunty, no ?<br /><br /><b> A. I. </b> This transition from baby to Aunty is so seamless. No special effort, no antiwrinkle creams, no worry about crows feet. And soon you will be in the market with your little one, and she will be called baby !Ugich Konitarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15901335427613806798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-10031188074962918602009-06-13T08:38:56.619+05:302009-06-13T08:38:56.619+05:30Hehe, I remember whenever I go to the bhaji walas ...Hehe, I remember whenever I go to the bhaji walas at Matunga Market on my trips to Mumbai now...I used to be called 'baby' as a kid when I trudged behind my naana holding a small striped plasticky shopping bag for masala - the adrak, kadipatta, kotmir, chilli mix which I'd carry while he took the heavier bag with the veggies, a decade or so on, I was Behenji, then Bhabhiji and now some of them call me Auntyji!! Feels very funny somehow.A.I.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01157788595540667292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-19868092287288751872009-06-13T01:55:52.816+05:302009-06-13T01:55:52.816+05:30Awesome post. Yes, in India everyone becomes an Au...Awesome post. Yes, in India everyone becomes an Aunty. In US, infact people call there parents-in-law by first name. It is pretty common. But somehow "Aunty" always make me feel older. :(Jayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05053043951887070129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-85299747357616742982009-06-12T22:40:33.415+05:302009-06-12T22:40:33.415+05:30I thoroughly enjoyed your post! "Aunty of a ...I thoroughly enjoyed your post! "Aunty of a Faculty member" ~ I like that and can see why you take joy in it.<br /><br /> It's different in different families even in the US. <br /><br />For my Dad's side, it's "Aunt" and "Uncle." However, for my mother's side - we were told not to use those labels - we call our relatives by the first name, minus even the "Mrs." (In fact, if we call them "aunt/uncle" offense is taken on Mom's side!)<br /><br />Some of my cousins have children and their children call me "aunt." We don't have a set of rules, I suppose it's just what's wanted. I have to admit, it's nice being called Aunt :-)Aletahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05605214202876973830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-37918348080630456172009-06-12T03:57:26.281+05:302009-06-12T03:57:26.281+05:30Mrs. and Mr. are respectful ways to address an adu...Mrs. and Mr. are respectful ways to address an adult by a child. Mine were very good at using the Mr. and Mrs. Sometimes I think they must have thought the older people I knew odd to have the same first name for all of them.Amber Starhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04084517063365211835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-32762442289916051112009-06-12T03:54:53.883+05:302009-06-12T03:54:53.883+05:30I'm astonished they called you Mrs. However, I...I'm astonished they called you Mrs. However, I live in the United States and children here have lost almost all manners.<br /><br />Your post is very interesting. In languages the more important something is the more words there are for that thing or person. Kindness must be the common factor in the Indian language.<br /><br />Peace,<br />AmberStarAmber Starhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04084517063365211835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-20105303774288910802009-06-12T01:18:28.206+05:302009-06-12T01:18:28.206+05:30I love your writing. Tumche lekhan vachun mala maj...I love your writing. Tumche lekhan vachun mala majha ajjichi athvan yete :(<br />Ata tar meech aunty zhali aahe for kids as big as 17-18 sometimes!!!shilpahttp://shilpadesh.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-19650412468974230132009-06-12T00:09:19.585+05:302009-06-12T00:09:19.585+05:30Aunty Ugich, I have re-posted the cartoons on my b...Aunty Ugich, I have re-posted the cartoons on my blog if you care to revisit me. I was unable to do a good job because blog spot has a mind of it's own and I finally had to delete one because blog spot kept moving it on top of the others. I do hope they are visible now.Darlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18373134676852496647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-32567415492521268692009-06-12T00:04:41.946+05:302009-06-12T00:04:41.946+05:30I am so honored to be called Aji. Thank you for g...I am so honored to be called Aji. Thank you for giving me a title. I don't think anyone has ever called me 'Grandmother'in English as a greeting, but I love Aji. <br /><br />When I was a child we were taught to never call any adult by their first names; they were Mr. or Mrs. so-and-so. That show of respect has vanished in our casual society.<br /><br />Now even children call me Darlene. My doctor, dentist and their receptionists call me Darlene. Some women my age consider it a lack of respect to be addressed by their first names but I don't mind it; however, now I think I will demand to be called Aji.Darlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18373134676852496647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-53238597585314836602009-06-11T22:50:18.599+05:302009-06-11T22:50:18.599+05:30enchanted Actually, there is some merit in the way...<b>enchanted</b> Actually, there is some merit in the way you are supposed to give respect to certain relations, regardless of age. Kind of points you to a certain path, which makes evaluating new acquaintances easier , say, for a newly married woman, facing a "bharlela ghar"..... <br /><br />And about what you should call me when I come there in the first week of august (now pucca), I am abolutely fine with, "aho, shuk shuk", or even "hey, you"... no honestly, mavshi would be fine... like I told Vinita above, I dont have a sister, so I love being called Mavshi. <br /><br /><b>Lilly</b> Thanks for taking time out this week to read the post.You might be interested to know that my daughter is so used to all this aunty/aji behaviour, that 2 years ago, when we were in the US for my sons masters graduation, we visited a family friend whose mother is 90 .(She has figured in some blogs of mine). When it was time to leave, we all bent and touched her feet. (her son has lived extensively here and explained the sudden bending to her. But all this surely makes things interesting. And I will pass on your msg to my daughter... <br /><br /><b>Manju</b> Aunty sounds a bit "ati vishaal" if you know what I mean, and I feel mavshi and Kaku has more charm...<br /><br /><b>Ranu</b> Isnt this strange. I used to follow exactly the same policy, 34 years ago when suddenly faced by an entire phalanx of elderly aunts -in-law .....<br /><br /><b> G</b> I think by now you will had got some additions to your "relative" vocabulary, from the Mnangalore side ?<br /><br /><b>Chapati</b> best way to get your friends to understand this stuff is get them to visit here during some wedding etc...:-) <br /><br /><b>Hitchwriter</b> Hmm. Adha. Thats a new one for me. Need to find out more. ...never heard of a man being called Adha though I have heard of a woman being called Ardhangini....<br /><br /><b>Sylvia</b> Sometimes there is more than one Kaka, and then they get classified in various ways like, Big and Small, and sometimes even as DelhiKaka, Mumbaikaka, based on where they live. :-) <br /><br /><b>Braja</b> Me too. I think Mavshi (masi in the north), is so much nicer.... and I thought both Lilly and Darlene were wonderful as Lillimavshi and Darlene Aji....Ugich Konitarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15901335427613806798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-67756850152998441962009-06-11T21:45:26.414+05:302009-06-11T21:45:26.414+05:30I don't like the word Aunty, though love being...I don't like the word Aunty, though love being called Masi...it just sounds better for me :) I love your addresses to Darlene and Lilly :))<br />x♥ Brajahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07693196044262677095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-71158558773473143122009-06-11T21:12:19.349+05:302009-06-11T21:12:19.349+05:30Vinita Actually, mala baheen nahi, tya mule mala m...<b>Vinita</b> Actually, mala baheen nahi, tya mule mala mavshi mhatlela kadhihi jyasta pasanta asta :-)<br /><br /><b>Sujatha</b> Isnt it interesting that despite so many languages , and even confusing names, we all follow the same philosophy, uncle, aunt and grandmawise ? I wonder how much of it our children will follow when they are adults ....<br /><br /><b>Roshni</b> You know, i had an american roommate in the apartment i shared when in grad school in 1970, at UCI, and I am still in touch with her and her family. Her late father had his 97th birthday a few years ago, and I addressed a card to him as Uncle Frank, and everybody was so amused....But I cant call him Mr so-and-so. ...<br /><br /><b>Sucharita</b> thanks for enlightening me on all the names. I have a niece in-law who is from Bengal, and she introduced the family to the Kakima stuff. We didnt realize that in Bengal Kakus could actually be Kakas...:-)Ugich Konitarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15901335427613806798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-32223663100718165342009-06-11T20:52:17.499+05:302009-06-11T20:52:17.499+05:30Great post! Like Lilly, I always learn something w...Great post! Like Lilly, I always learn something when I come here. Interesting the different ways to address relatives, friends etc. All of our languages have their quirks, I guess. Fun read!Sylvia Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05484577678585907669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-87218631331549743582009-06-11T17:58:37.380+05:302009-06-11T17:58:37.380+05:30lovely lovely post... and funny too...
you know ...lovely lovely post... and funny too... <br /><br />you know I m a kutchi who cant speak proper kutchi never been to kutch and called my dad pappa and mummy... but somehow i saw my cousins calling their dad "adha" and it stuck... and my son calls me "adha" and i so love it... I dont know why.. ! <br /><br />although i can never be called a proper kutchi or a jain.. i think it is somewhere there inside me...<br /><br />like u said... its all relative...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-71783157755070187082009-06-11T15:17:39.275+05:302009-06-11T15:17:39.275+05:30Hehe, I rem trying to explain this to a friend of ...Hehe, I rem trying to explain this to a friend of mine, and he thought it was really weird!<br /><br />I call parents of my asian friends Aunty and Uncle, but am always at a loss of what to call non-asian parents - Mr&Mrs sounds too formal, calling them by name sounds disrespectful!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-1541562814454987042009-06-11T15:15:42.245+05:302009-06-11T15:15:42.245+05:30Ha Ha Ha... You have depicted the whole 'relat...Ha Ha Ha... You have depicted the whole 'relative' scene in India very well.<br />My elder sister is 'Tai' to all my friends. I sometimes doubt whether they even remember her name. :)<br />And one of my close friends stopped calling my mom kaku and now calls her maushi , pretty much for the reason that you mentioned in your post.. :)~Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04136504255538483496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-84615601292940510812009-06-11T14:51:20.675+05:302009-06-11T14:51:20.675+05:30In my holidays as a kid to Kolkata I used to be ov...In my holidays as a kid to Kolkata I used to be overwhelmed by the joint family set up (both sides)amount of jethimas, kakimas, mamis, pishis and mashis (all aunts) and found it difficult to distinguish them from the didis (older sisters) so Ma simplified it for me that touch everybody's feet and anybody wearing skirt or salwar is didi and for others look at your cousins for help!!!<br /><br />Years later when I went back (12 yrs) followed my new bro-in-law who whispered to me who was who..... I touched everybody's feet irrespective!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06853251401928746903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25171037.post-76550837092229006872009-06-11T13:14:45.491+05:302009-06-11T13:14:45.491+05:30Great post!
Some of my children's friends ca...Great post! <br /><br />Some of my children's friends call me Aunty and some call me Kaku/Kaki. I like the latter more, though.:)manjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15470194805146456892noreply@blogger.com